Hey
Ladies, I know you all like dissecting what’s going on with your men
and honestly that is cool but what isn’t cool is when you start asking
all or any of the 4 questions below.
By the way, have you ever realized how angry a man can get when you
ask too many questions at a time? When it comes to relationships, most
women want to know everything that a man is thinking.
But here is the truth and from a man’s perspective, there are 4
questions I think women should really avoid asking their men while in a
relationship because the answers you get are basically those aimed
at pleasing you but not the whole TRUTH.
1: Do I look fat?
Most men have learned that the answer to this question is always NO.
Always. No exceptions. Women and weight have too close of a bond
and women often define themselves and their worth by the scale.
Therefore, men are prepared and ready to say, “No, you look beautiful!”
no matter what. If a woman really cares about looking fat, she should
look in the mirror and decide for herself. If she feels great, then no
need to ask for affirmation. But the attention-seeking woman might be
desperate for compliments and turn to her man for her fix. It’s most
important to be healthy, no matter what the scale says… Ladies!
2: What happened in your past relationships?
Some women become obsessed with finding out everything about their man’s
past. They need to know if they measure up to ex-girlfriends or
wives, if he’s as happy with them as he was before and if he’s really
over a past heartbreak. You might be especially concerned about what
went wrong with your guy’s previous relationships. Remember, though, he
might have been a very different man then, and he probably learned from
his mistakes. Try not to hold his past wrongs against him
because chances are he doesn’t want to be reminded of them. He doesn’t
want you to see him in a bad light.
Let him be the person he is now. Let him feel good about how he is with
you, and not dragged through memories of what he did (or didn’t do) with
other partners. Of course it’s important to communicate, but too much
probing shows a lack of trust and confidence in your relationship.
3: Are you attracted to other women?
This comes down to self-esteem (and therefore attention) and confidence
in your relationship. A man who doesn’t look at anyone or feel anything
for other women is either very old, very tired, or just plain lying.
Looking at and responding to others doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t
find you desirable or is comparing you. Of course too much gawking or
staring is inappropriate, are you going to tell me you’ve never glanced
at an attractive guy?
We are all humans. If he takes it to the next level and starts to flirt,
however, he’s definitely not fully committed to you and its time to
reevaluate your relationship.
4: What are you thinking?
This question usually comes up in a moment of silence, and often times
while in bed. Some women want to make sure that a man is thinking only
of them in bed, but this is a very complicated question for a guy. Make
sure you can tolerate hearing about what’s going on in your man’s mind,
and remember not to assume he doesn’t care about you. You might
be amazed when he answers “Oh, just the football game yesterday.” A
man’s minds can wonder to multiple subjects, while women tend
to concentrate on the activity at hand and analyze every detail. Relax
and take your man’s answer for
what it is.
While
some of these things that guys notice about a girl may be obvious,
others are really subtle! If you know what he’s going to access on a
first date, you can take a little extra time and mind those areas!
Here’s a list of 5 things guys notice first! They could help you to plan
a proper
