Wednesday, 25 September 2013
Reasons Why Some Women Remains Single
In the book, Walsh tackles the top 5 myths women operate on that, she believes, are still keeping them single. Intrigued, right? We were too. Grab your notebooks, as we ask Walsh to break it down for us.
Myth 1: The Hookup Culture Is Everywhere
These days, pretty much everyone’s having séx while dating, right? Wrong! “The hookup culture is more urban legend than reality,” says Walsh. A recent National Survey of Family Growth study showed one quarter of college students are vírgins, she offers. “If you take that 25 percent off the market, and then you look at what’s left over, you have this belief that most people are having more séx than they are,” explains Walsh. “Men included! Since the perceptions exist, many women feel pressured to have séx well before they’re ready.”
Makes sense, right? But what about all of the women you know who speak openly and vividly about their séxual escapades? “It’s the talk that’s damaging, because it normalizes the practice,” insists Walsh. “These women engage in risky behavior because they think everyone is doing it.” Walsh offers an interesting analogy for what she feels is the “high supply séxual economy” we live in today: “I believe, when it comes to séx, there are two distinct dating markets: One ‘sells’ bulk séx at a low price, and that price could be the cost of a drink or a well worded séx, and the other sells séx to a very narrow market. And these are women who charge a high ‘price’ for séx, and that price can be love, attention, care or commitment. And, I like those ones.”
Myth 2: Séxual Chemistry Helps Relationships
When women are debating casual séx, many will say séxual chemistry is an important deal breaker for them. But, does it really determine whether your relationship will thrive or fail? Walsh says no-way. “Many women believe that jumping into bed very early in a relationship is the best way to test séxual compatibility,” she says. “I’m sure that men created this myth! If this theory were true, the people who did not test their séxual chemistry before committing to each other would therefore have shorter less happy relationships.”
Walsh says a recent study she examined looked at 2,000 couples and when they committed to each other. The results showed that the better the séx early on, the worst the relationship outcomes later, and the more volatile those relationships were. “It’s because séx confuses the brain,” Walsh explains. “As soon as you get that rush of dopamine, you are not making good choices. You are not deciding if this is going to be a good partner for you, you are now diluted with feelings that he must be a good partner. Science says hot séx too early in a relationship is a prescription for disaster.”
Myth 3: Women Have Séxual ‘Needs’
For women, Walsh insists that feeling turned on by a man has an important psychological component. “It’s often an extension of their emotional need for companionship,” she explains. “Some research has found that women often desire to be desired, and that’s a whole lot different than a biological desire for any séx with anyone.” Still need more proof? Walsh compels you to ask yourself this, “Why haven’t drug companies been able to come up with a drug that enhances a woman’s séxual libído, only men’s?” Touché.
Myth 4: Séx Leads to Love and Longevity
There are many important and valid reasons to wait to have séx with a man you deeply care for, but here’s one that’s often overshadowed: Good séx doesn’t make him care for you any more than he did before you do it! “Slightly more than half of women in their 20s believe that a séxual hookup can be a stepping stone to a serious relationship, but the research shows something entirely different,” says Walsh. “Having séx early on in a relationship, good or bad, is bad for the relationship. I found a study that showed that if you have séx within 30 days of meeting somebody, you have an 88 percent chance of breaking up within one year. Eighty-eight percent! But if you wait 31-90 days, you’ve got a one in four chance you’re going to be together a year later. Just like that, it rises 25 percent.”
We know what you’re thinking: What about the men who insist that intimacy will bring them closer to a woman? Are they full of it? Yes! “The more séxual partners a man has had, the more he perceives diminished attractiveness in each new mate,” says Walsh. “Therefore, séx does not lead to love for a man. If a guy is a player, séx leads to disdain for you, because he’s looking for something that doesn’t exist, and he thinks he’s going to find it by more séxual conquests. Men fall in love because of trust, not séx!”
Myth 5: Promiscuity Can Be Turned Off
Did you know that sleeping around now can and will create trouble for you when you decide to commit or marry? Real talk! Faithfulness is a learned behavior. “Many of the women I’ve spoke with told me that they’re just hooking up because they’re auditioning mates but they’re confident that when they commit they can be faithful,” reveals Walsh. “Again, the research doesn’t support this! These women are training their bodies to be future cheaters. We can train our body for almost anything. The only way to train for monogamy is either to abstain from séx, or be monogamous.”
aged Mother of star Singer Nwaozo Obiajulu aka MC Loph Obiajulu Is Dead
The aged mother of star singer Nwaozo Obiajulu aka MC Loph passed away
few days ago at a private hospital in Enugu after battling an
undisclosed illness exactly two years after losing her star son in a
tragic road accident.
Mrs Obiajulu lost her two children, MC Loph and his sister on the 14th of September 2011 in a tragic car crash on Benin Ore Expressway.
They were heading to a traditional wedding ceremony when the tragedy struck. The car they were in somersaulted severally before landing in a ditch.
After the death of her son, Mrs Obiajulu accused Emeka Morgan (his manager) of killing him.
Hear what she said in an interview months before her death;
“Emeka Morgan killed my only son and daughter, left me childless and handicapped. Since Obiajulu died, the only time I set my eyes on the so-called Morgan was in May 2012, when he came with Obi Madubogu, gave me a bag of rice, a gallon of groundnut oil and 60 thousand naira and asked me never to allow Nkiru (MC Loph’s wife) to have a share of the money. But I couldn’t, I gave the money over to Nkiru after he left and it was used to fix the Camry with which she does most of her run arounds in Lagos. Since then, he had neither called nor checked on me again”
Mrs Obiajulu lost her two children, MC Loph and his sister on the 14th of September 2011 in a tragic car crash on Benin Ore Expressway.
They were heading to a traditional wedding ceremony when the tragedy struck. The car they were in somersaulted severally before landing in a ditch.
After the death of her son, Mrs Obiajulu accused Emeka Morgan (his manager) of killing him.
Hear what she said in an interview months before her death;
“Emeka Morgan killed my only son and daughter, left me childless and handicapped. Since Obiajulu died, the only time I set my eyes on the so-called Morgan was in May 2012, when he came with Obi Madubogu, gave me a bag of rice, a gallon of groundnut oil and 60 thousand naira and asked me never to allow Nkiru (MC Loph’s wife) to have a share of the money. But I couldn’t, I gave the money over to Nkiru after he left and it was used to fix the Camry with which she does most of her run arounds in Lagos. Since then, he had neither called nor checked on me again”
North West, E! star Kim Kardashian is Flaunting that Sexy body once Again
Published on September 25th, 2013 | by Joan Ngomba
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Just three months after giving birth to baby North West, E! star Kim Kardashian is flaunting that sexy body once again. The fresh mama maintained her newly blond hair as she stepped out for lunch yesterday in California but didn’t fail to show off her post baby figure in an olive-green jumpsuit and a nude-colored Louboutin shoes. (See full picture below)
Kim Kardashian wasn’t going for the paparazzi this time but her military-style outfit with an appropriate fraction of her cleavage spotted got all the pictures photographers could need. She was later joined by big sister, Kourtney Kardashian and boyfriend Scott Disick as well as a friend, Blac Chyna at the Stanley’s Restaurant in Sherman Oaks, California.
Even though she decides to spend most of her time being a mother, Kim is slowly but surely getting back to being the popular sexy socialite that she is. Her appearances on Kris (Kris Jenner’s former TV show), tweet/Instagram pics and her recent fragrance –Pure Honey- ad cover yesterday goes to show how eager she is to getting back into public eye.
Kanye West’s baby mama has also been spotted in Europe and America on date nights with her boo and that company made the rapper lavish admiration for his lady love on a new interview with BBC Radio 1, “She gave me everything, she gave me family, she gave me a support system,” he said about Kim. Kanye further went on to appreciate Kim as an independent woman, saying, “She was in a powerful enough situations where she could love me without asking me for money, which is really hard for me to find.”
Now that’s the way love goes! What can you say about Kim’s post baby figure so far?
The Highest Paid Hip Hop Artistes Right Now Plus How much they Charge
Award-winning singing duo, Peter and Paul Okoye famously known as P-Square are the highest paid hip-hop artistes right now, ENCOMIUM Weekly findings have revealed. The Okoyes are currently charging between N9 and N10 million for a show within Nigeria.
Apart from information gathered from the source close to the duo, independent music promoters/artiste managers also confirmed this, declaring the Koko master, D’Banj as the second highest paid artiste. The DB Record boss charges between N6 and N7 million as a standard show fee.
“Before the split of Mo’Hits, it used to be D’Banj. When D’Banj was charging between N7 and N8 million, P-Square’s fee was N5 million”, a veteran music manager affirmed, adding, “Right now, it’s P-Square.”
The afro-pop king, 2Face Idibia is the third highest paid. Although, 2Face’s performance fee has not been consistent, it’s within N5 and N6 million.
Industry sources told ENCOMIUM Weekly that 2Baba, as he’s fondly addressed, easily adjust fees because of the love he has for fans. “I agreed that he’s the third because he loves what he knows how to do best than the money. He’s man of the people and he loves to reach out to the people. He’s always happy when he’s on stage.”
Star Boyz owner, Wizkid, who stormed the industry three years ago, rose to become the fourth highest paid music star, collecting between N4 and N5 million. Although, the Jaiye Jaiye artiste has not featured in any big show in recent times, he also told ENCOMIUM Weekly in a recent interview that he charges N4 to N5 million.
Female singer, Omawumi Megbele is the highest paid female star. She collects N3 million alongside some male artistes, including Flavour, Timayah and the rave of the moment, Olamide. Others are Darey Art Alade, Duncan Mighty, and Chocolate Music artistes, M.I and Ice-Prince.
The likes of Kukere crooner, Iyanya, Davido, Wande Coal and Tiwa Savage are in the league of artistes that go for N2.5 million, while D’Prince, Dr.Sid and one time highest earning artiste, 9ice collect N2 million respectively.
Aside artistes that still receive less than N1 million, Naeto C and Waje’s fee is N1.5 million.
“Basically, each artiste has a standard fee for gigs, concerts but for private parties such as birthday, wedding, etc, it varies. Some people would call for reduction simply because they are individuals, not brands. It depends on the artistes whether to accept or not. What I know is that it’s always fixed”, said an artiste manager.
1- Psquare – N10million
2- D’Banj - N 8million
3- 2Face – N6million
4- Wizkid – N5million
5- Omawumi, Darey, Duncan Mighty Olamide, Timayah, Flavour, M.I, Ice-Prince – N3 million
Others…
6 - Iyanya, Davido, Wande Coal, Tiwa Savage – N2.5 million
7 - 9ice, D’Prince, Dr. Sid – N2 million
8 – Naeto C, Waje – N1.5 million
Jesse Jagz Claims he is Nigerian Music’s Jesus Christ
Published on September 25th, 2013 | by Isaac Dachen
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Jesse Jagz, the talented producer, singer and MI’s kid brother, claims he is Nigerian music’s Jesus Christ and the only musician who can rescue Nigeria music from the rot it is currently going through.
The Jos, Plateau state born entertainer who is known for his magic fingers on the turn table says that Nigerian music is “unintelligent” and that “even goats can dance to our music.” Jesse Jagz who is now the undisputed Afrikan Shrine spiritual leader, in an interview with HipHop World Magazine, said he is the top artiste in the country. “My top 3 artistes in Nigeria are me, me, me. No one works harder than me.
I would love to see a lot of my colleagues step up their game. You don’t need Jesus to tell you that Nigerian music is unintelligent. Even goats can dance to our music. Can Jesse Jagz make Nigeria a better place for Wizkid? Can Wizkid do same too?
Let adults do better and let kids party. We need to leave something better for the coming generation.” Do you agree with him?
Yoruba Gospel Artiste, Lanre Teriba aka Atorise Now A Landlord In Ajah
Published on September 25th, 2013 | by Isaac Dachen
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Showbiz is really paying dividends in the country going by the number of entertainers who have moved into their personal houses, with Yoruba gospel artiste, Lanre Teriba, the one known as Atorise, being the latest to move into his own house in Ajah area of Lagos State.
We gather that the singer recently finished the house which is said to have cost him some millions of naira. According to the information, Atorise will stage a house warming ceremony on Sunday, 29 September, 2013, and will also serenade guests with some of his melodious tunes and also fete them to a warm treatment.
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